Dating after divorce with young kids
It goes more quickly and amicably when both parties are ready to divorce.2. If you aren't completely sure, consider separation, advises Cari Andreani from Jacksonville, FL.She separated from her husband after three years of marriage and is grateful she took the time to identify why she thought splitting was the best option before going through with it."My ex and I weren't ready to totally call it quits," she says."When I decided to divorce, it was because I didn't want to keep doing this over and over.
Now married 16 years ("and counting," she says), she and her husband were able to move past their issues.The main question I asked myself was, 'Would life without my husband be better?' I've never doubted my decision and am a lot happier now."7. Separation can give couples a taste for what divorce would be like—and, in some cases, scare them into working things out, says Andreani.Learning if your marriage is salvageable takes soul searching, says Christia Sale, author of. "It can highlight what isn't working and guide you toward future love," she says.
She suggests asking yourself: "Is there verbal, physical or substance abuse? On the flip side, Kate, who divorced after a few separations, says that working with a pro might help you split without regret.
Pamela Williams Kelly, a lawyer in Memphis, TN, who separated from her abusive husband when her children were young, didn't realize how much her strained marriage had affected her six-year-old son until her separation.