Toilet chatting site
If your friend or relative can’t get out of bed, you may need to help them use a bedpan or urinal.If the person is strong enough to sit up in bed, it can make this easier.If your relative has dementia, a red toilet seat is useful as it can help them see where to sit.It’s also worth considering any habits that will help them go to the toilet.But if they do need your help, asking them what they’d prefer will make them feel more in control.You might like to ask your district nurse or healthcare assistant to be there when you first take your friend or relative to the toilet.
It can help to have a bed guard (an attachable rail) or another family member standing by to help the person feel secure while they are being turned.
We have more information about equipment and adaptations that can help.
You might need to help your relative or friend stand and walk so they can get to the bathroom.
When you get to the bathroom, keep an arm around their back and make sure they have something to hold on to before lowering them down.
Give them privacy and ask them to tell you when they’re ready for your help again.
Your district nurse or occupational therapist will be able to give you advice about equipment and adaptations that can help with toileting.